Its normal to go through the occasional dry spell but in doing so, you create a safe haven and after a short while, you get too comfortable basking in the security and safety of this safe place. Now, this can be a problem. It may make getting back into the confusing and nerve wrecking uncertainty of the dating world difficult.
Step 1: Take your time to rebuild your confidence.
As I previously stated, you are definitely used to being alone and in your safe space where you didn’t have to deal to the complexities of dating but now you are reading this, it means you want to get back into dating. So, you need to be in the right mindset by finding out why you want to date and what you hope to accomplish through dating. There’s no rush to start dating so take all the time you need to build up your confidence and to get into the right mindset.
Step 2: Actually date.
Yes, there’s no rush to date but at some point, you do have to actually try it. Quit making excusesand actually get out there. I know! Shocker, right? You can give dating websites a try or just go out more to functions, bars or events.
Step 3: Away with patterns.
Get rid of the “the type” you would typically go with and give others a chance. Obviously, that type hasn’t been good for you or you may not have gotten into the dry spell in the first place. So, test the waters, try someone different from your usual type, either in race or even personality.
Step 4: Learn from experiences and trust your intuition.
I strongly advice against involving friends into your relationship unless it is absolutely necessary,and you need some advice. If someone you talk to has been in a situation similar to yours and it ended badly, make sure you heed their warning. Of course, they may be wrong but then again, they may be right. If you also find yourself in a situation you had been in before with someone else, learn from your own experience and protect yourself.
Step 5: Don’t be afraid to make the first move.
Typically, woman wait for the guys to make the first move, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Women can and should be able to initiate conversation and show she is interested. I know society or even the guy can sometimes tag women who do this as too forward, or in some cases, she may be taken advantage of but anyone with this believe is not even right for you in the first place. You have the right to go after what you want regardless of your gender.