As much as I’d like to tell you that after a break up is the perfect time to love, understand and build yourself up as an individual, most of us know it is not that easy. You find yourself going through different emotions each day– sometimes regret, anger, hatred, or even sadness. Almost everything triggers a memory– food, music, places or even a random smell, reminds you of specific moments you had with your ex.
Honestly, I believe the only thing you can do is pick yourself up because life goes on. It may feel like your life just got put on hold but lucky for you, that is just a feeling. In the words of Drake, a breakup is not the end of the world. It is just the end of a world you had with your partner.
First thing you should do is to heal.
Once again, I know this is difficult, but it is a must. You need to let go of the past and embrace the future. Healing is not falling down a dark path of doing things that would yield negative results because you are trying to forget the pain or show that you are okay without your partner. Instead it is accepting that you are not okay, but you definitely will be. It is admitting that you learned from the relationship and even though it has ended, you created beautiful memories with that partner that have aided in making you the person you are today. Time will heal every pain you are feeling.
This is very important especially for those who just got out of a long-term relationship. You are so used to having your partner around that you may have consciously and unconsciously changedso many things in your life to accommodate them. From major changes to little things like how you cook, when you eat or even what you eat. Now the relationship has ended you need to realize what it is you want and do that instead. You need to separate what you did because of your partner from what you did because of yourself and drop the former.
Build yourself as an individual.
Now you are your own person Your decisions and goals are no longer formatted in a way that I suitable to your relationship with your partner. Now is the time to be elfish. Make sure your goals and dreams are what you want them to be. When in a relationship, your goals may shift along the way or change to accommodate your partner but now you are single. You have to adjust them to benefit yourself.
Getting over a relationship is hard. It does not matter if it was a long-term relationship or a short-term relationship. The pain is still real, and time is the only thing that can heal this pain.