I was the little girl who dreamed about being happily married with five children. I envisioned myself being a full time stay-at-home mom, in a beautiful white picket fence house with no dogs. I wanted the crystal chandeliers hanging from my ceiling, high counter tops in the kitchen and windows so wide, that my neighbors could see right through. This mental “show” was simply a dream. A dream like many of you, never got to experience of being single.
I did not date much, I just stayed in my relationships for too long. Too long to realize that I was worth more. Well, let’s rewind a bit. After a few dead end relationships, I met an amazing man. When we met, I was at a place in my life when I had literally given up on dating and wanted to settle down. He was passive, didn’t talk much and seemed ready. We dated for a short time and jumped right into it. Yes! JUMPED! We soon discovered that we didn’t have much in common and grew very frustrated with each other.
We argued about almost everything. We clearly didn’t have a good connection but stayed in the marriage for six years. Out of the craziness, came a very beautiful boy, our son and that’s who inspired my decision to move on with my life. There was no way, I would raise my son in a toxic relationship that no counselor seemed to be able to help restore.
Being Single After Divorced and Thriving
So here I am after a few years of being divorced. I am now a single-parent, working full time and in school full time. The reality of how quickly dreams can be shattered is brutal. Initially, I had a hard time adjusting to the changes in my life. I was angry, frustrated, fearful and worried. I was on an emotional roller coaster. I pretended that I was happy, to keep my son from having to see and deal with my frustrations. I did not always do a good job but God’s grace has been sufficient for us both.
I never thought I would ever be this happy in my life. Don’t get me wrong, I am facing many challenges, even as you read this. If you are single parent, you know first-hand how hard life can be. Nevertheless, God is our source of strength. Six years old Phillip and myself, may not have everything we desire but we sure have everything we need and that’s enough to be thankful for. I am so thankful for my faith in God, family, church and friends who so unselfishly gives of themselves to make sure that we are doing well. I am tearing right now.
Opportunity After Being Single
Being single have presented an opportunity to pursue my dreams. I enjoy lightening up the lives of others, through my inspiring testimonies. It is where I feel the most belonged and at peace. I am so excited to be on this journey and have chosen to go full force, after the things that I believe God have placed on my heart. It gets hard sometimes but I remind myself that the God of Moses, will make a way.
Why the God of Moses? It’s because I admire of strategic plan God had, to bring the Israelites out of Egypt. That’s how I viewed my life then. God makes no mistakes, so know that His plans for you are great and already settled in heaven. Where you are now is just a sneak peak of where God wants to take you. Just like me, you are destined for greatness. I believe it whole heartedly and that’s the reason why I am not bitter but BETTER!
~All things work together for good, to them who love God and are called according to His purpose~ Romans 8:28