Like most single parents, I struggle with balancing my time between work, family, school and social media. I also find it very difficult to say no to my six years old son, even when what he wants is clearly off my budget. Sometimes love can be a dirty little thing, right?
As I walked through the aisles of Walmart searching for the Fidget Spinner, I began thinking about my budget and my plans for the upcoming weeks. I mentally began tuning my son out, as he and a few other kids eagerly searched for their favorite colors. I watched him grab three spinners and immediately I went into a panic, not realizing that they were only $4.99 each. This latest must have toy is used as a stress- reliever and was designed and marketed as a calming tool used to help with focus, ADHD and autism. The sensation over this toy is phenomenal and makes me wonder how many parents are out there, unable to purchase one for their child. The thought stinks!
As I go through my day reflecting, I come to realize that success is at all of our finger tips. It is not as complicated as we make it. All we need to do is stop making excuses. As a speaker, who worked her way outside the four walls of the church and is now one of social media’s top female inspirational speakers, I can attest to the fact that success is not just about hard work but discipline and drive.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting more out of life. Nothing wrong with wanting to buy your children the newest gadget, wanting to get out of the slums, wanting to be able to provide for your family, wanting to pay off student loans and kiss Sallie Mae goodbye, wanting to pay for a nice vacation or even wanting to have an overflow of blessings whereby you can give into the lives of others.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting more. You can probably attest to not having been born with a golden spoon in your mouth and experiencing an unfair life. Join the club! However, as an adult I have acquired enough sense to know that my life is what I make it. I believe that if we can see ourselves living out your dreams, then we can achieve it. The biggest stumbling block that you and I have, is that of the one staring at us in the mirror. I remember the 2006 PG-13 Drama Film, The Pursuit of Happyness. This movie is a perfect example of courage, hope and strength. If you have never seen it, I suggest you look into it, as it will inspire you to move past your current situation.
Film synopsis –Life is a struggle for single father Chris Gardner (Will Smith). Evicted from their apartment, he and his young son (Jaden Christopher Syre Smith) find themselves alone with no place to go. Even though Chris eventually lands a job as an intern at a prestigious brokerage firm, the position pays no money. The pair must live in shelters and endure many hardships, but Chris refuses to give in to despair as he struggles to create a better life for himself and his son.