Most of us have been at that point of struggling to make one relationship work while others have found themselves struggling in one relationship after another, but just can’t seem to “get it right”.This experience has left us wondering “where did I go wrong?” or “What can I do to make it right?”
Now relax! because here are the answers to those questions.
Now relax! because here are the answers to those questions.
Connection.
What a lot of people don’t know is that a relationship can even be wrong from the start. You may have mistaken what was lust or infatuation as genuine connection, or simply rushed passed the phase in which connection should have been established and gotten into a relationship with someone you had no connection with. If you are confused about what phase this is, it is simply friendship. In the friendship phase, a strong bond is created, and the foundation of the relationship is built on this. If you are already in a relationship and fear that you may have skipped out on this phase– Fear not! You can fix this. Learn about each other’s goals, interests, likes and dislikes. Heck! Make it a game. Learn how far is too far and how to respect and communicate with each other.
Communication.
For a relationship to last, there has to be ample communication. NO! there is nothing like too much communication. Your partner NEEDS to be aware of how you feel, what you need and what you do not appreciate. This goes both ways and should be highly encouraged. When there is no communication in a relationship, feelings get bottled up and eventually, this bottle is going to explode and may lead to the endof the relationship.
It is important that each communication should be respectful and take into consideration, one’s preferred manner of being spoken to.
It is important that each communication should be respectful and take into consideration, one’s preferred manner of being spoken to.
Commitment.
I believe it is safe to say that the absence of commitment in any relationship is the fastest way to end the relationship. Both partners need to be dedicated to the relationship, ensure they are growing together and be faithful to one another. When both partners are committed, there is an abundance of trust and this greatly strengthens a relationship. However, the lack of commitment does the exact opposite, by weakening the relationship. Unfortunately, trust is something that is not easily built and once broken, it is hard to restore.
Love.
I know at this point questions like “why will I be in a relationship if I did not love my partner?” are floating through your minds. Surprisingly, it is easy to also mistake lust and infatuation for love, and not just genuine connection. Although they can lead to a relationship, this relationship will not last because lust and infatuation do not last. They die down after a short period of time. Still on the topic of love, partners need to love each other as well as themselves. They need to know their worth and know what they deserve. They can only do this if they practice self-love. In all honesty, you can only be loved as much as you love yourself. Love your body, love your mind, and every single thing about yourself and you will see that you are worth so much and deserve so many good things as well.
It is important to note that a relationship is a serious affair and should be entered with certainty. Both partners need to resolve their personal baggage–including baggage from past relationships–to a certain point before they decide to go into a relationship. When this is done, you find that you have left your insecurities and trust issues outside the relationship and you are able to fully appreciate and be there emotionally for your partner in the way they deserve
